Your Partners Negative Energy
November - 2003 Article 11-1
We as a human species relies upon communication…if this weren’t true there would be no reproduction and we would seize to exist and you wouldn’t be reading this article. In magick..it is my firm belief to hold balance. Many feel that harmony is having just a good ‘ol day.. Finding that $20 bill a few times on the street, having the opposite or same sex winking at you depending on your preference… To even the prayers answered after waiting for the results of medical test coming back in ones favor to the rejoicing to someone’s success in doing badly…Yes there’s all kinds of perceptions of what good and bad is…
But what if this energy enters into your magick work…what if you have to work with the ups and downs of someone else’s perceptions of what would be classified as good or bad…It’s hard enough keeping up with ones own pity party what if in your magickal gathering someone within your circle is having a bad day?
Dealing with a negative partner (in their perception at the time they may not perceive themselves as negative) in magick…be it friend, relative or significant other can be one of the hardest if not the most frustrating thing to deal with. Even if you’ve known them for years…you may find it hard to stay focused if you are involved with someone who has who has grown to complain constantly, finding fault with good ideas, extremely skeptical about your practices, beliefs, or criticizing people you admire to even the spirits you work with.
How can you keep your counterparts from affecting your own performance and spiritual growth? Looking at why this person is even in your life is something you may want to look at first. Did you have this person in your life because he/she was attractive to you, helped you and you feel in dept to them, do you have many things in common….Or where they appointed by your religious or spiritual leader? You know they say: that which attracted you the first time is what will keep your interest open yet many fall from why it was they were attracted to an individual in the first place and wonder why they may not get along later… This works well in many instances of life be it personal or professional
If you involved with a chronic nay-sayer that person may have other qualities that are extremely important to you weather you like it or not. They may have a unique skill or quality that you yourself may lack which may make up the balance of you as a couple. You may be a good astrologer interpreting accurately any constellation and forth coming and they may be able to connect with the spirits better than you… After all to make and orchestra involves many instruments to make a beautiful sound or melody. In other words, it’s important to try to separate attitude and performance. If you can see that your significant other/member is making a contribution in the balance in what you cannot perform in the relationship or magickal performance, you may want to overlook the negativity and find ways to keep that person from “getting” to you especially if you have to perform ceremonies.
Here are some tips:
- Look at the big picture
Some may become negative or cynical after being passed a “blessing” or the “rewards” that they believe they deserve after helping so many. Sometimes it may just be everyday life combined with spirituality that can become overwhelming…No one said the many dimensions of life would be easy!!!
In either case, you may be able to ease the situation by showing your appreciation for your partners’ efforts. You might say, “I know that your divorce (or perhaps a certain spell did not go as expected…perhaps a client became unhappy and your partner had put a lot into the case) has been tough for you, and I admire how your dedication has been despite the frustrations.” Your partner may respond better to kindness than to a blunt expression of your feelings about all of their complaints. You may even want to help your partner spiritually by performing services for them or even generate a session whereby the power of healing is given to them… Spirituality is like food to the soul…sometimes we must rest to digest so that the growth of inner nourishment can benefit us… Perhaps your partner is full at this time and the cup is way past over and it is time for a break.
- Respond in ways that won’t encourage negativity
Complainers are often looking for sympathy, and you may encourage them by agreeing with everything they say in the hope that they’ll keep quiet. It’s usually more effective to make a neutral response that shows you heard a complaint but don’t necessarily agree with it. If a partner in magick declares that the new case that you may want their assistance on may only end up in disaster (especially in matters of love if they too are going through some issues in the same matter..), you might say, “You may be right, but I’d like to give it a chance,” or “That’s a possibility, but I’m taking a wait-and-see attitude.” Or “The spirit has revealed differently to me”. True enough in the line of work when it comes to spirituality it is our inner voice, the spirit who warns us of disasters…the ye and ne…but you should know difference when your partner in magick is on a negative note or an intuitive one. Listen…let them get the frustration out.. perhaps lending your ear of concern is something they crave after listening to so many themselves.
- Don’t get dragged into personal attacks
The hardest kind of negativity to deal with may involve criticism of someone you love, admire or respect be it physical or spiritual. Even if you agree with some of the criticisms, you may face serious consequences if their words of power manifest subconsciously unto you thereby begetting a negative outcome either within or without.. So it’s sometimes best to ignore a negative comment, change the subject, or express your disagreement in a non-confrontational way. If a your partner makes a negative remark about someone you admire, you might say calmly, “That hasn’t been my experience. I’ve found them/it to be very helpful. Now I have to get back to work.”
- Avoid involving outsiders of your spiritual circle in your minor personality differences
Keep in mind that you have developed a bond that gets a little more complicated than just a carnal relationship…You have shared your soul, the essence of your being with this person though your spiritual work… this has to be worked out differently…Unless of course it’s a legal or medical matter. If your partners attitude bothers you, you might try to get ideas on dealing with it by stepping outside of the situation and putting yourself in as a third person….what would you tell your client how to deal with the situation?
Remember everyone at some time or another may become a little more negative than usual, and learning how to deal with them can be essential to getting ahead with progressing in your spirituality not to mention friendship. In addition to making your life easier right now, mastering this vital skill can lead to rewards of a lasting bond and positive outcome with your spiritual manifestations. Always stay guided by the spirit along with core values of common sense when needed. If you can stay upbeat and motivated while dealing with somebody who has a very different temperament from yours at the time (or for a longer time…), you may have taken a big step forward to meeting the goals that you’ve set for your spiritual growth.
Finally, You may find the balance of harmony in your magick work with your partner through their energy that they have to offer at the time.. depending on the type of work that you are performing… Some coaches in contact sports utilize the players adrenaline to help them win…where as sexual energy, feeling of love, and even the passions of hatred may be used in other deeds of magick…. Bottom line-always remember that for every action there is a reaction and for every reaction there was a cause that will bring about an effect….
Therefore always consider your actions “with” your partner and actions “of” your partner passable or not passable to attain the common goal that you may have with working with magick.
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